On Finding Your Life Values

Have you read this post by Sarah Wilson? I add her blog posts to my “faves” list so often that I might as well go ahead and automatically star her entire blog. Anyhoo, this one particularly got me inspired. Specifically this bit:

“Conjure a moment where life felt great, where you were in your sweet spot.” For me it was a random moment during a solo mountain bike trip in the Blue Mountains. Sweaty, my bike shorts sagging in the chamois gusset, I’d lain down in a hot patch of gravel overlooking a valley. I can’t think of a moment where I felt more enriched. Harris got me to reflect on what mattered and what personal qualities I possessed in that moment. I was up high, away from the busy-ness of the city; I had perspective and wasn’t “sucked in”. I was dusty and boldly being myself. In an impassioned babble I outlined succinctly what my values were:

authenticity, boldness.

Naturally I thought about my own moment: on a snowboarding date with Tim in Canada, one particularly amazing moment I recall with clarity is sitting on my snowboard, on the top of the mountain, just savouring the incredible sight of a gloriously snow-capped mountain right in front of me and soaking in the silence all around.


What surprised me about this choice of moment was realising that the feelings it evoked in me were not at all related to “achievement,” which, had I been asked, I probably would have said was one of my core driving forces in this life.

But no, that moment on that mountain had nothing to do with it. Rather, the feelings it brought out were more like: Adventure. Beauty. And just…really living. i.e. being an active participant in life.

Nothing to do with success at all.

This was quite a revelation to me.

As was the reminder, yet again, of just how damn much I am doomed to forever miss Canada.

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  1. Franipantz
    November 13, 2011

    Don’t worry Jen. You’ll always love and miss Canada but you don’t have to give up on finding those moments wherever you are in this world. We can find these peaceful moments of clarity, self-understanding and succinctness almost anywhere. The similarity between your moment, and your inspiration to remember that moment, were that you were positioned looking out over nature from a higher perch. Instinctively we have learned this from our ancestors going to high places to locate a suitable campsite, opportunities to find food for our migrating village when seasons change. Buddhist and Christian monks alike, across the world, also situate themselves in high places in order to be closer to their high selves.
    We’re instinctive creatures (I like to be a member of the animal kingdom…it’s science!) and all the answers are within ourselves just waiting to be unlocked by doing something ‘natural’, something that has enhanced and enabled our evolution. It feels good for a reason, probably survival. Find yourself a high place and spend time in nature Jen. You can get that feeling back over and over again.

  2. November 15, 2011

    Ooh I know, thanks lovely, we will get back there again someday, I know it. And we do need to make more of an effort to get back into nature again. We will. Camping is in my near future, I can feel it!!


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