It’s a CHOICE thing

My chosen ones (NOT my excuses)

I’ve always tried to consciously shun the idea that there’s things you can’t do once you’ve got kids. But when I see opportunities such as this, I can’t help but think “oh man, I’d so love to do that, but I just can’t. Cos I have kids.


My main reason for feeling crappy about that wording is that I don’t ever want to fall into the trap of resenting the kids. For blaming them for things I wanted to do but couldn’t. Which is why at times like this, I remind myself that actually, I could do that: I’m just choosing not to.

Walk with me while I work this one out, will you?

Like in this instance, I ask myself: “Could I take six months away from them and go travel the world, performing and learning about other cultures?”

Sure I could. It’d be damn hard to organise, but if I really wanted to, I could make it happen.

But I choose not to, in favour of being a present mother. Sure, there are seasons when I’m less present (mentally and/or physically!), but for most of the time, I’m choosing to be right here with the little munsters. Warts, worms and all.

So yes, I shall pass on opportunities like this, but instead of lamenting what could have been, do my freaking best – no matter how hard it might be at times – to keep my chin up and know that it’s all good.

I could do it. But I’m not gunna.

Gees, Louise, that’s not sayin’ it doesn’t still look amazing though…!

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  1. September 9, 2010

    Hey Susie, so glad you had a lovely birthday! I think you can travel with kids at any age – each age brings its own pros and cons. We’ve done a month-long camping trip around Tassie with a 5 month old (well, I guess by the end of it she was 6 months!), we’ve done road trips with the kids around Australia, Canada and the States when they’ve varied in ages from 4 months to 7 years! It’s definitely different, more expensive and very challenging with kidlets, don’t get me wrong, but it certainly can be done! 🙂

  2. September 8, 2010

    I fantasize about the traveling around for six months things A LOT. We did that ten years ago before the kids. We’re wondering how old they have to be to come along. thanks for stopping by today. it was a lovely birthday…

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